Intuitive Prosearch - Knowing the Answers when you Need Them

by Damian Nordmann

It is crucial that parents know their child's needs in order to serve the learning of the soul. Often parents have a difficult enough time identifying their own needs for learning and the changes that will produce fulfillment, let alone setting up the conditions for the most optimum and accelerated growth that the child desires.

We all have a universal urge that gives us the security, tools, and foundation that encourages us to reach our full potential. Concentration, love, self expression, discipline, honesty, affection, directed imagination, and emulation are some of the qualities, skills, and needs we require to experience the greatest joy and fulfillment in life. Sometimes parenting can seem an overwhelming task - one of the greatest you'll ever choose and the one you want to give your best to. Intuitive Health Analyses can give remarkable insight into your child and your parenting.

In one Intuitive Health Analysis a mother who was feeling pressured stated that she thought her seven year old son did not want to learn from her. Here is the response:

This is not accurate. In actuality what is occurring is the one of the child wants more of the mother's attention and therefore he purposefully causes her to put out more effort. It is in part because the one of the son needs love greatly, particularly the kind the mother can give and it is in part that he feels in some way he has not received this because of other factors in the life. Would suggest therefore, that the mother be more acutely aware of this and then learn to be very demonstrative in her love and affection, to come to terms with her own grievances or fears or doubts concerning her own choices and her own conditions and how they have affected this one then there will be greater rapport established. It is not that this one does not want to learn, this one learns much from the one of the mother. (31498BGC4)

This boy had been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder ( ADD ). In this case he was not the one who was attention deficit, rather it was his parents, as is often the case with children stigmatized by the ADD label.

Each soul chooses the parents for the qualities the parents have to give when they are at their best. This boy wants more of his mother's attention, more of her love and the essence of what she has to offer him. It can be easy for adults to look at the things children do and see them as strange or contrary to the kind of conduct that should be displayed. Perhaps we can better learn from our children the kind of behavior and experimentation that can produce greater understanding.

This boy's mother asked a question concerning the "compulsive behavior" of her son and how she can help him manage it. The answer to the question shows how impulsively the soul always acts to produce learning.

We see this is temporary and this one should not be concerned about it. These are the experimentation with the emotions, the emoting and then seeing what happens. It is another formation for this one in learning cause and effect. Would suggest for those around this one for them to recognize it as so and therefore direct or channel this one toward a more cognizant experimentation with (emotion) rather than it being an unconscious fashion and therefore seen as compulsive or improper.(31498BGC4)

Children are like sponges, soaking in everything from their environment. The younger a child is the more true. The child has not yet developed the filters of reasoning and discrimination characteristic of the conscious mind as we understand it. This is good in the sense of openness for learning because the child has no limitations in the early years. The only limitations the child acquires are the ones learned from the parents or limitations of society that the parents allow the child to perpetuate. Over a period of time any restricting ways of thinking (diseased attitudes of the parents) will have an affect on the mental, emotional, and physical health of the child.

Parents of a two and a half year old girl asked what they could do to aid in the healing of their daughter's lung infection. The answer showed them how critical it was for them to change their thinking and the way they express their thoughts and emotions.

The most important change is for these ones to be clear in what they communicate, that is, there is a need for these ones to speak words that match their thoughts and to speak words that match the emotions. Much of this one's difficulty is that this one receives very mixed messages particularly emotionally. When this one feels emotion from these ones that is not communicated, this one absorbs this and has difficulty releasing it. These ones (parents) deny their emotions. Both of these ones in different ways desire to maintain a particular posture, a particular image, that is not based upon truth. Therefore, when these one's are angry and are not pleased with this, they deny it. When these one's are feeling guilty these ones do not want to admit this because it would mean failure in some way. Therefore there is an attempt to cover this up. (111996LJC2)

The parents' denial was being felt by their daughter. She was confused mentally and emotionally and therefore didn't know how to express or understand emotions, particularly anger. The pent up emotions caused a restriction and breakdown of the immune system resulting in the infection in her lungs.

The parents were used to stuffing their emotions and creating a facade that did not match their true thoughts. Their daughter needed a means to understand how the inner and the outer should match. This was pointed out in another question they asked about why their daughter would hurt her newborn little sister.

This one is experimenting with her own expression and her own means of communication. This one's intention is not to hurt. This one is simply attempting to cause there to be an outer manifestation. We see that because this other who is younger is new and is very open, there is a direct match between what this one does and the effect it produces, and this one is curious about this. (111996LJC2)

It was a relief to these parents to learn that their daughter was not ill intended in any way and that a change in her behavior could be so easily forthcoming as they would be more truthful.

The souls that inhabit the small bodies of children will go to what may seem to our worldly wise minds extreme lengths to further their learning. This is because young children are still connected and aware of their reason or purpose for incarning which is to gain permanent understandings.

The most crucial formative years for a child are between the time of birth and about the age of seven. Learning from the example of their parents and people they look up to in their environment continues on into the pre-adolescent and teenage years. One mother asked during a Health Analysis how she could aid her twelve year old daughter to fulfill her soul's purpose - her "assignment" - for this lifetime.

To recognize that this one's concept of what her assignment is is not necessarily true. To first become open within herself to develop a capacity to communicate and to perceive what exists within the child, rather than what this one wants the child to become. These are different. We see that this one of the mother needs to become much more invested in her own development and growth so that this one will have the skills to influence the other in this regard. At the present time period, this one lacks the skills to do so.

Would suggest to these ones of the parents that there could be a great change for this one were they to become more aware of their own ways of thinking. We see that in many ways the interaction with this one is attempting to teach them this, but they are reacting to it rather than learning from it. Therefore, avenues which would enable these ones to become more enlightened in regards to the cause and effect of their own thinking would aid in causing there to be some hope and expectation that is in some way unconscious, but in other ways not, that they need to fight in order to get what they want. This one of the child senses this and does not want to fight. She wants to give up, she does not want the conflict, and therefore, she will go to extreme lengths to try to please those in her environment to avoid conflict. In that way, this one's construction of thinking is very much the product of what she has been taught to this point in her life. If what she is taught is to change, the parents will need to change. (31498BGC3)

As souls we all desire is to learn and grow, to become compatible with the Creator who brought us into existence. As each individual becomes aware of this truth and lives this truth each day, we will find it much easier to understand our children and serve their needs. This is because the learning of adults and the learning of children are really the same. We all want to develop reasoning, concentration, imagination, will power, compassion, integrity, determination, intuition, and peace. When we understand these universals as part of everything life offers, then education in our world will finally match its true meaning which is to draw forth, to draw out the best that is within us all.•

Damian Nordmann is a teacher and director for the School of Metaphysics. Originally from Louisville, Kentucky, Damian began directing the Oklahoma City branch of the school after graduating from the College of Metaphysics in Windyville, Missouri. He is currently completing the requirements for the Qui Docit Dicit degree offered through the SOM .