INTUITION, Intuitive Research

Have We Met Before?

Bruce was my best friend in the seventh grade. I was a ninety-five pound weakling, Bruce was twenty pounds lighter. I approached Bruce in the hallway on the second day of school, just after we left algebra class.

"Hey, aren't you in my fourth hour history class?" I asked, attempting to strike up a conversation. From that moment on, we were friends. We ate gruel together in the school cafeteria. We shot spit wads during history class while the teacher's head was turned. We both detested gym class when we learned square dancing and had to touch girls (how gross!).

We read MAD Magazine from cover to cover and we doodled endlessly. Bruce could draw the greatest Rat Finks with their tongues hanging out and driving the weirdest cars. His pièce-de-ré sistance was Snoopy the flying ace piloting his bullet-ridden Sopwith Camel and cursing the Red Baron.

We liked the same kinds of books and swapped library books back and forth. We liked fiction stories about heroes like Captain Nemo, biographies of great men like Harry Houdini, Thomas Edison, and Old Hickory. We consumed stories of adventure and intrigue. In fact, we created a wonderful Walter Mitty intrigue of our own. In our fantasy, we were heroes. One night, while most of the United States slumbered, the Communists bombed us and thousands of troops parachuted in and took over. Only Bruce and I could save democracy and the United States! Given the reality of 1967 and the creative genius of two teenage boys, we began making concrete plans-just in case! Bruce had some pretty wicked ideas about his pellet gun that also shot darts. We'd also break into sporting goods stores and steal ammunition and rifles. We'd make Malatov cocktails (I had to ask Bruce what they were) and build our own bombs. We developed our own secret code and tested it passing notes in history class. We plotted the best places to attack the enemy and planned ways to trap them.

Bruce and I enjoyed each other's company. It seemed like we'd laugh forever when we were together. Our imaginations were stimulated endlessly, by each other, by the books we read and the movies we saw, by the jokes we told and by the "cracked" perspective we shared on life, junior high school, and girls.

Our friendship and shared experiences grew during that two year period, seeded from an instant mutual attraction. I felt comfortable with Bruce the first time I saw him, almost as if I knew we would be friends before I ever talked to him.

You've probably had similar experiences of meeting someone for the first time and becoming best friends right away, as if you'd known each other all your life, or perhaps lifetimes. You find out that you have many of the same interests, perhaps similar backgrounds and experiences, common likes and dislikes.

You can probably recall a relationship that started with the mutual attraction of love at first sight. Or perhaps you'd describe your relationship to a person of the same sex as "sisterly love" or "he's just like the brother I never had". Your attraction to an older man might be attributed to the qualities you see in your father or grandfather. If asked to describe these types of attractions you would probably use physical or emotional terms. Yet this is only two-dimensional, like trying to describe a kitchen table in two dimensions; the table is three feet wide and thirty-two inches high. You have no idea how long the table is and whether you can seat four at your dinner party or twenty-four.

Although we are physical and emotional beings, we are also mental or spiritual beings. Incorporating the mental and spiritual perspective to a relationship is the third dimension of the relationship, just like adding the third dimension to our kitchen table! It is this third dimension to our relationships that explains what this mutual, instant attraction is and how it works. This added dimension adds depth to the relationship.

If you consider the physical laws of nature, such as the law of gravity or the law of magnetic attraction, then you can begin to understand the universal or mental law of attraction. Each of the mental laws are explained by universal truths; "what goes up, must come down" explains the law of gravity. Our mental law of attraction could be explained as "like attracts like" or, more precisely, "you will attract to you the people, places, and things that will offer you the greatest learning opportunities."

Like the laws in nature, the mental laws are impartial. These laws are always at work, for anyone, anytime, anyplace. You can demonstrate and experience the law of gravity at any time by dropping a pencil or sitting under an apple tree like Sir Isaac Newton supposedly did. You can experience the mental law of attraction by going to a movie or the grocery store, wherever and whenever people gather with a common goal.

So this concept of Universal Law and Universal Truth doesn't seem so far-fetched. If I go to the movie theater, everyone there has a desire to see the same movie. It makes sense that the people in my life are part of my life for a reason, that there is some common mental ground far more important than watching a movie.

This mental "real" attraction that draws us together is what manifests as the physical attraction or the emotional attraction. Although there are only a finite number of ways for a relationship to exist in our physical world such as husband and wife or lovers, as best friends, as business partners, the mental dynamics and possibilities of any relationship are as unique as the individuals involved.

What about the saying that "opposites attract"? The mental law of attraction still works, but what might appear dissimilar from the outside is built around common learning opportunities. Two people in a relationship may have diverse interests and backgrounds. Together, these two "halves" make a whole. Each person brings unique qualities and interests to the relationship. Have you ever dated someone who expanded your interests beyond baseball to music, art to science? Your partner can stimulate you to gain new experiences. Two friends, John and Laurel, illustrate how opposites attract and complement each other. Laurel enjoys literature, writing, and art while John's interests lie in team sports and golf. In relating to each other, they use the diversity in interests to try new experiences while sharing common goals. This stimulation and sharing is at the heart of all productive relationships with others.

Spirals of Growth

While I was in college, I dated a woman who was several years younger than I. She had never been married. I had been divorced and was a single parent. We dated for three years and talked about marriage and about creating our own advertising and public relations firm.

This had been a case of instant attraction. She attended a college in Louisville and returned to visit a friend, my neighbor, during spring break one year. We became friends and when she moved back to Oklahoma for the summer, we began dating. In the fall, she transferred to the University of Oklahoma where I was enrolled, so we could be together. During the next three years we were virtually inseparable.

She was struggling to be independent. Although she wanted to live her own life, she depended on her parents to pay her college expenses. I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I'd set a goal two years earlier to finish a military career but medical conditions changed those plans.

In many ways, each of us had our future tied up in our relationship. I was a means for her to rebel against her parents since they didn't exactly approve of me, and she was my hope of a future. We built a dependency on each other as to who we were and what we wanted. I came to know that my identity was built around our relationship.

After we broke up, I was severely depressed and angry, and I took my anger out on the people in my world. It took many months for me to reestablish my own Self image and begin to see that I could accomplish what I wanted to with my life.

Each of us dealt with the breakup of that relationship. We didn't have the benefit of knowing how we could have more fully used the relationship as individuals while it was in progress. I had yet to learn about the School of Metaphysics and the service of Past Life Crossings.

I hadn't been studying metaphysics long when I heard about the Past Life Profiles and Past Life Crossings. From a purely scientific and physical standpoint the idea that I had lived before made sense, after all the body I was using consisted of a small universe of atomic particles, electrons, protons, and neutrons. I knew that from eighth grade science class. I was a bundle of electrical energy and would always be in some form or another so the idea that I had been a physical human being before was not far-fetched. I also knew that I had a soul, but I had no concept of how or if it fit into the idea of reincarnation.

In fact, I didn't have that much of an idea about what reincarnation was. I knew that people in India believed in reincarnation. They believed someone died and came back as a cow. That part didn't make sense to my Western mind! It seemed preposterous that once I had achieved the status of a human being I would want to go backwards, expressing in what I considered a lower life form.

I decided to satisfy my curiosity and after some discussion with my teacher and school director, I decided to have a Past Life Crossing with my daughter, Michelle. She was ten at that time and I was a single parent. The school director told me the reading would reveal a significant past association Michelle and I had shared. She said Michelle and I had probably been together many times, and the reading would relate an association most closely matching our current relationship. She said the reading would aid our relationship and help me be a better parent.

As the reading session began, I was intrigued, nervous, and skeptical. After all, I was new to this and I barely knew these people. In fact, I had never met the woman who was reading the mysterious Akashic Records. The Intuitive Reporter and Conductor sat next to each other in the living room. A small table with cassette tapes and two tape players sat in front of the Conductor. Several observers and the people having readings crowded into the living room area, sitting on sofas and straight-backed kitchen chairs. A lone chair sat empty in front of the Reporter and Conductor for the person receiving the reading. The Conductor began preparing the Reporter for the session.

Once the session began, the Conductor looked at me and said, "Paul Blosser". I got up and moved to the empty chair. I knew that no one would see my sweaty palms, but I was afraid they would see my hands shaking.

"You will search for the identity of the entity referred to as Paul Gerald Blosser," instructed the Conductor. "You will search for a significant crossing of paths with this one referred to as Paul Gerald Blosser and that one referred to as Michelle Laura Blosser, and relate that significant crossing."

The Intuitive Reporter related that Michelle and I had been husband and wife in Germany in the late 1600's. Through my family trade, I was very adept (and stubborn) at my work in the garment industry. Michelle was a seamstress although she loved to care for and heal animals.

Okay, I could see how part of this could be true. There were many similarities between the past and present though some of them were what I considered vague. Michelle had a dog named Fuzzy and she loved him, taking good care of him. I had learned as a child to sew. In fact, I had just given Michelle a quilt for Christmas that I had made. I liked German food and studied German in college, but I figured this was because my family had been stationed in Germany when my father was in the Air Force.

I could also see that Michelle and I occupied similar roles within our association. Michelle had particular duties in caring for our home such as folding the laundry, doing the dishes, and vacuuming. And I had my prescribed duties as the head of the household such as paying the bills, cooking, and yard work.

The Intuitive Reporter stated that in our past association I believed in order and structure in life, living by rules and standards about how, when, and why things should be done as they were supposed to be done. Michelle however brought constant, spontaneous changes to our lifestyle which were very upsetting to me. Although this caused resentment in me, Michelle felt torn between her duty to me and her duty to the people in the community.

Part of this made sense to me. As the parent, there were certain rules and regulations I insisted upon; bedtime was 10 p.m. on school nights, homework and chores needed to be completed before playing, and Michelle was to ask permission to go to someone's house or to shop with a friend and parent so I knew who she was with and where she could be found.

"We see upon the part of the female that this one had a very great love for the one of the male, but we see that at the same time, this one felt as though this one owed those ones that came to this one for service. We see that this one saw the self as being torn between the wants and the demands of the husband and the needs of others within the community. We see however this one gave very little attention to this one's own needs and how each could satisfy the needs on the part of the Self." (19885GBM)

The reading revealed that in her past life Michelle's perception was one of sacrificing what she wanted so she could meet the demands of the husband and the demands of the villagers. Her resentment and frustration concerning this continued throughout that lifetime. Communication was a primary issue to be resolved between us in the past.

"We see that these ones continued in primarily the same manner throughout that period of time. We see that there were ways where the one of the male was constantly wanting something from the female, that this one was constantly trying to achieve and yet there was very little communication to exactly what this was or how, in fact, each could contribute one to the other and to the association." (19885GBM)

I could understand that communication was an issue in that past life and I knew that we each needed to communicate better in our current relationship, but I thought the same thing could be true for everyone in every relationship. However, as the Intuitive Reporter related how the past association was significant to the current relationship, my skepticism and doubt were swept away.

"We see that at the present time there is some frustration that exists in the one of the male once again. We see that the male does not see what this one does have to offer the one of the female. We see that there are ways that this one is aware of certain changes as they are occurring, but we see that this one does not cause there to be a preparation in this one's thoughts and this one's actions to be able to use the changes to this one's own benefit as well as to the benefit of the female." (19885GBM)

As a single parent, I was insecure in raising Michelle. Although I was the oldest of six children and I'd had plenty of practice taking care of and being responsible for others, there was still a part of me that didn't know if I could handle being a parent. I also felt there were things that Michelle didn't need to know until it was time for me to tell her, feeling that I had to protect her from disappointment. Her hopes had crashed many times before when either a planned visit with her mother or other major events didn't work out.

One of the things that intrigued me about the significance of the reading was the description of the thoughts we each held and how they were often very similar. I have always been one to analyze a situation or experience, trying to figure out what happened, why it happened, and how I could improve or "fix it". A perfect example of this is my affinity with machines (probably from a past life). I have never been afraid to repair something that was broken, whether it was a car, a clothes dryer, or a computer. I had often been puzzled in my life because I expected that everyone thought the way I did. The insights from my reading helped me see that my tendency to analyze is an exceptional quality rather than a norm. I began to appreciate the way I think and recognized at the same time that Michelle thinks in a very similar manner. She wants to know how to figure things out for herself also.

"....in regards to communication, that there be the recognition that there are definite differences in ways of thinking and yet there are definite similarities. Would suggest to the one of the male to listen very closely to the one of the female both when there is direct communication and also when that one is in this one's presence. This one will be able to hear many of this one's own thoughts as they are expressed."

As the Reporter said there were different ways of thinking, I recalled an experience Michelle and I had just a few months earlier. She had put dirty dishes in the dishwasher after school one day. After I came home from work, I discovered that she had not loaded the dishwasher the way I taught her! She was wrong I thought. Although her approach was different, her method worked just fine. From this I could see the rigidity in my thinking that was being pointed out from this past association.

I also remembered several instances where I had a doubt or was puzzling over something in my mind and Michelle would ask or say essentially what I was thinking. It was like she was speaking my thoughts because my thoughts would be out in the open for me to view.
After the significance was related I was permitted to ask any questions. I wanted to know how Michelle and I could use the information in our current father-daughter relationship.

"We see that it would be beneficial to both to recognize each individual's personal responsibility to themselves and in regard to the use of the association. This would not be the responsibility that oftentimes these ones slip into, of thinking they need to control one another, but it would be that which would bring the attention to the conditions and circumstances that enable these ones to follow through on their thoughts, to be consistent in their thinking and their communication." (19885GBM)

This also made a great deal of sense to me. I worked many hours, attended my classes at the School of Metaphysics one night a week and served on several committees in the community. I felt like there were times when Michelle did give up the things she wanted because I had a meeting or other engagement. I often felt guilty and wanted to make up what I believed to be lost time with her. She would make deals to go to the movies; spending the night at a friend's house or having a friend sleep over. Each of us in our own ways influenced and tried to control the other to get what we wanted rather than communicating our desires and goals openly and honestly.

Several years ago, an attractive woman entered my life. Again there was an immediate attraction on both our parts. We talked easily and comfortably about children since we were both single parents, about metaphysics and our personal goals. We began a good friendship, and we both knew as she returned to her home, that there was more to this relationship.

Our relationship sky-rocketed several months later as we wrote fast and furiously, establishing a long-distance relationship that existed primarily on the telephone and in the mail. It was a great opportunity for both of us to express our thoughts and emotions. This was a different relationship for me, with a great deal of emphasis on mental and physical communication with very little physical time and contact. We decided to explore our relationship further and requested a Past Life Crossing. Because we'd each had readings of this type with other people, we knew we would receive an honest and objective perspective on our relationship. We also knew that we would gain a greater understanding of how we could aid each other in fulfilling desires and accomplishing goals. We would have the information to add on to that important third dimension of our relationship and we'd know how we could make the most of our physical and mental time together. In short, we'd know collectively what cards were on the table and how to play them.

Our Past Life Crossing revealed a significant relationship in England in the 1400's. The past relationship was significant because it related a previous relationship with mental attitudes and karmic learning opportunities paralleling our current relationship.

"We see for the one of the female to have been the mother of the one of the male. We see the one of the female to have been very domineering and we see that this one was very persuasive of what this one wanted. We see that oftentimes this one would attempt to manipulate the one of the son to do the things that this one wanted, for we see that the one of the son was often very stubborn and was reluctant in conforming to the rules and regulations." (520901SMR)

The physical structure of the past relationship differed greatly from our present relationship as friends and lovers, but the mental and emotional perspectives were very much the same. In some respects though, the mother/son relationship co-existed within our current relationship. She was a very strong-willed and single-minded woman, willing to sacrifice or go to great lengths to accomplish her goals and desires. I counted on her for support, somewhat financially but mostly emotionally, during that time. When we talked, usually once a week, the long distance call was charged to her phone bill. There were many times, as we communicated by letter or phone, that I sought her emotional support, particularly when I was feeling sorry for myself or feeling that I could not achieve what I desired.

An issue surfaced in this reading that had been apparent in an earlier crossing with my daughter and in other readings I had requested. It pointed out a karmic lesson that I was beginning to recognize and deal with. The issue or karmic lesson that keeps appearing in my readings is the power of my influence. With limitations in my understanding of relationships with others, I often find myself trying to control another's attitude or action giving little or no consideration for their choices or desires. My learning in those situations is to recognize when I am being controlled and how I control others. This helps me to understand what my limitation is and why it exists, giving me freedom to change and grow in caring for myself and others.

I have heard people remark as they listen to a reading, "Oh no, am I still manipulating people" or "am I still doubting myself" or whatever a specific karmic issue might be for them. There are major karmic lessons to learn each lifetime, just as there are certain astrological influences that reflect throughout your life. I can't expect to have a single relationship where I complete all my karma about recognizing manipulation, and then never deal with the issue again this lifetime.

Karma is a universal, mental law. It is a magnificent tool for our awareness and enlightenment. Karma offers repeated opportunities to learn and put into practical application what we gain from our experiences. The operative force behind karma is intention. If your intention is to escape duty by having someone else do your work, like Tom Sawyer did while white washing Aunt Polly's fence, then as far as you are concerned you have unjustly taken advantage of another. The manipulation people fear or find repulsive occurs when only your best interests or selfish interests are served rather than the interests of everyone involved.

However, when your intention includes concern for another, you can use your influence productively to aid someone else. For instance, if our hero Tom intended to teach each of his helpers how to be the best fence white washers in Hannibal, Missouri, then his purposes would be just and advantageous to all involved. When you have an idea of how each person can benefit from an experience your influence is elevated.

At this point in my life, I was struggling with some major decisions about my personal growth, and the outcome of those decisions would impact the rest of my life. I felt like, once again, I'd set some goals for myself that I couldn't achieve. I was feeling very frustrated, as much with myself as blaming the world around me. I felt like I needed a refuge, a place to run away in case everything didn't work out. I viewed the relationship as a port to weather my mental and emotional storm and a place where I could hide.

"We do see however that the one of the son did have an attachment to the one of the mother and he did feel that this one needed to be of service to the mother. We see that due to this type of obligation, the one of the son remained in the home for a long period of time. We see however, even though this one felt obligated, there were many areas where this one would become very frustrated and very angry within the self, for we see that this one felt that he was cheating the self due to the fact that this one was not able to pursue many of this one's own desires." (520901SMR)

One of the goals we wanted to accomplish with our reading was to develop a closer relationship although we were physically separated by hundreds of miles. We wanted to determine how we could help each other fulfill individual and common goals. In response to this, the reading had this to offer:

"....would suggest to these two that the importance is to have open and honest communication, for we see that at the present time period there is still a great deal of manipulation that occurs between these two individuals. We see that much of the manipulation is when each one feels vulnerable and feels that each one needs someone. Would suggest to these two that it is important for them to build individual strength as well as strength together." (520901SMR)

Since our long distance relationship had been built over the phone and by mail, we prided ourselves on our communication and the ability to express ourselves honestly to each other. However, the Intuitive Reporter's insistence on "open, and honest" communication did not come as a shock to either one of us. I could recall conversations when I was feeling vulnerable, lonely, or uncomfortable with myself, where I left those undesirable thoughts and perceptions of myself unspoken. I sought instead to find my self-value or self-esteem in someone else's eyes, because through my own eyes, I didn't possess those qualities.

The Reporter went on to suggest how I could use what I had learned in the past association to build trust in myself, in my thoughts, and practice open and honest communication.

"...it would be of importance for this one to practice courage in this one's own self and for this one to be able to speak up and speak this one's thoughts as this one thinks them, for we see that very often this one's victimized identity is due to the fact that this one does not express what this one has to say." (520901SMR)

Truly open and honest communication is one of the keys to building and using any relationship. The idea of expressing thoughts openly and honestly incorporates trust in yourself, in your thoughts and their reality, and trust in the relationship. To use my association most productively, meant that it would be most productive for me to admit when I was feeling victimized or sorry for myself. It would give me the opportunity first, to admit such thoughts exist in my mind, and second, to physically hear my thoughts. With this type of honesty in communication, the relationship would also provide a place for me to gain another person's objective perspective as they presented truth to me about my own thoughts.

It is often very easy to "buy into" someone's limitations or poor image of himself, feeling sorry for them and supporting them when they are down. However, this is not the most productive approach. You can give them an honest and objective perspective to help them identify their thoughts. If they receive your honest communication, they'll have information to help them recognize why they have those thoughts. You offer insight to help them change their thoughts and self image.
 

The Secret of Intimacy

Physical closeness is not a prerequisite for a successful relationship. I have had relationships where I've experienced physical and emotional intimacy, but the most satisfying relationships I've had involved mental intimacy. You can be mentally intimate with someone else only to the degree that you are mentally intimate with yourself.

As you begin to recognize and acknowledge your thoughts, your doubts, fears and limitations, then you can also begin to recognize the same in your partner. This degree of mental intimacy permits you to work together to identify your individual strengths and build on them.

A married couple that lived in separate states requested a Past Life Crossing. She was a television executive and he was a senator in the neighboring state. They had decided to maintain a commuter marriage for career reasons.

In their past association, each admired and was attracted to the other. He was a Greek governor and she was his children's teacher. In the past association cited, the pursuit of their individual goals kept them from assuming a traditional relationship, so she and the children were in a household separate from his own. The Reporter went on to say this was a way that the male controlled the female.

The significance for the current association is the same: stubbornness and individuality causes each to try to control the other. Their mental attention has been on what is missing from the relationship rather than how each can gain from the structure they've chosen, and how the relationship can be built and grow. The unique situation they've created with their relationship offers each much freedom in pursuing their individual goals that a traditional marriage would not. It also affords them an opportunity to develop that mental intimacy and challenges them creatively to make their physical time together productive and fulfilling.
 

Weren't You in Egypt, Say 800 B.C.?

Star-crossed lovers may have the mistaken belief that they were great lovers in a past life; Romeo and Juliet, Samson and Delilah, Cleopatra and Mark Antony. Such thinking leaves little room for all the ordinary couples in history, couples like Ezra Haddim Hezediah and his wife Esther around 800 B.C. in the area we know now as Palestine.

In their present incarnation Esther and Ezra are Laura and Calvin respectively. Both are students and teachers at Schools of Metaphysics. Their past life association revealed physical circumstances that were very similar to their current relationship. In both past and present associations, spiritual duty formed a significant role in the lifetime at that time and served as a strong foundation for the relationship. It was at least part of the mental attraction that drew the physical beings together.

"We see for these ones to have been a part of a group of people whose affiliation was religious in nature. We see for this to have been Hebrew. We see that the families were very close and that there were many opportunities these ones had to be in the same physical vicinity of one another.

We see for the one of the male to have been trained to tend sheep and we see for this one to have considered this a type of sacred duty. We see there to have been religious significance to this and we see that this one felt honored to accomplish this in the ways directed or expected by those in positions of authority.

We see for the one of the female to have prepared for caring for large groups of people. We see that this was primarily involving that of preparing food. We see that this one took this responsibility in a serious way. And we see that this one, although there was a desire to experiment, refrained from it because this one respected the traditions and the significance of the position this one was being trained for. We see that there was a kind of respect that these ones held in regards to their own chosen duties as well as in regards to their relationship to each other."

In the present time, Calvin and Laura have expressed a commitment to pursue their spiritual growth while aiding others through teaching spiritual principles.

Like Laura and Calvin, each party in a relationship has expressed some degree of commitment to the relationship. The commitment is not always a spoken or written commitment, yet it exists and can take many different forms. For example, in your relationship with your employer, you have made a commitment to perform a certain type of work for a specific number of hours for financial gain, medical and vacation benefits and security. In a relationship with a sibling there may be a commitment to listen to the other's problems or concerns, share the care and responsibility of aging parents or trade babysitting services. In a love relationship there is probably a commitment to be the "one and only" or "significant other" in someone's life, "to honor, cherish, and obey in sickness and in health".

Much of this type of commitment may be expressed as contractual commitment. Some form of contract, whether written, spoken or unspoken, is the foundation for the commitment.

The most beneficial form of commitment in any relationship is the mental commitment first to your Self and your learning in the relationship, and second to the other person and their learning in the relationship. This is a very personal and intimate application of commitment. This is the type of commitment evident in Calvin's and Laura's relationship. Each desires to aid the other in becoming the very best they can be.

To begin that process in any relationship, it is important to recognize how the relationship currently exists. The significance of a Past Life Crossing pinpoints the relationship as it exists now:

"We see once again for there to be common interests between these two and we see that there is a respect that these ones hold, once again in regards to duty or position. We see that there is much that these ones are seeking in terms of what can be brought to the positions that these ones hold. We see in this way there is once again the accomplishment of the type of respect and the type of openness to experiencing in terms of how each can affect others. We see there is a kind of admiration these ones have for one another in regards to this." (99902BGO)

When you make a mental commitment to a relationship, you are making a commitment beyond the physical and emotional needs of the individuals to the souls who are involved in the association. The ideals or desires of the souls determine where the relationship can go. As you examine the relationship from the perspective of the soul and the learning that can occur, you can determine spiritual goals for the relationship that are in alignment with the individuals. You know where the relationship is and you begin to formulate where you individually and collectively want to go. The focus of a mental commitment to a relationship centers around personal growth and soul progression. You are investing your Self in aiding your mate to achieve their soul's desires or helping them fulfill their "mission" for this lifetime. What a marvelous gift to offer the other half in any relationship, a commitment that says, "I'm going to do whatever it takes to make the most of this relationship for my Self and for you!"
 

Give me a Sign!

It is exciting to imagine the possibilities of past lives you've lived and past associations you've had. Perhaps you and your father were fellow trappers exploring the Northwest Passage or discovering trade routes to the New World. Maybe you and your boyfriend were landowners in China during the Ming Dynasty or alchemists experimenting to turn lead into gold. What if you were a sheriff in the Old West and your sister was the schoolmarm or the local saloon girl?

There are physical and mental signs in any relationship to give you clues about your past associations. For instance, common interests about food, music, favorite times in history, similar tastes in books or clothes or movies can all be relevant to your past association. The best indication of the past associations is your own intuition, your "gut" feelings. A mental clue to the significance of your relationship is to determine recurrent problems or challenges. You may discover that you and the other person get frustrated because you don't feel like you communicate your ideas completely. You may determine you both repress your anger at the other or express your emotions too easily.

Laura and I requested a Past Life Crossing several months ago. We shared living quarters at a School of Metaphysics Center. Laura directed the Center and I was her teacher and supervisor. The reading would help us to live and work together more productively. It would also provide information to help me be a better teacher to Laura and aid me to know how to help her gain more control in the events and circumstances in her life as she learned how to direct the school.

The afternoon of the reading, we were voicing our thoughts about the upcoming reading. "What do you think we were?" Laura asked as we washed a few dishes. She was referring of course to the structure of our past relationship. "I think we were probably father and daughter," I suggested, very confident in the recognition of my thought. As we sat in front of the Intuitive Reporter and Conductor later that afternoon, we discovered Laura was my stepdaughter in Turkey in 400 A.D.

Neither one of us seem to have a particular affinity for Turkish food, at least not that we are aware of. There seems not to be a collective affinity to that particular time period, peasant garb or anything that one might associate with that lifetime. My intuition however was accurate. Since I first moved to Michigan, I felt Laura was like a daughter to me, that she had been placed in my charge for her growth and development.

You may be able to assess what a past relationship might have been or where or when, but only with objective analysis can you understand the desires of the souls involved in the relationship. The important part about the Past Life Crossings is the depth and insight they afford on using the relationship and developing it from the soul's perspective.

The purpose of the Past Life Crossings is to reveal to you a past association that is relevant, karmically speaking, to what is going on in your life and your relationship at the time of the reading. It offers significant insight and information so you can be a happier, healthier, and more productive person by applying the reading to your life and relationship.

The Intuitive Reporter identifies your vibration through your name when the Conductor says "You will search for the identity of the entity referred to as John David Doe". This identification would be analogous to having a negative of a photograph, your vibration, and searching through boxes of pictures, the Akashic Record, for a picture that most closely matches that negative. When the Intuitive Reporter responds, "We have this", the picture of John David Doe that matches the negative has been found.

As the Conductor continues, "You will search for a significant crossing of paths with this one referred to as John David Doe and that one referred to as Jane Ellen Doe, and relate a significant crossing," the Intuitive Reporter's inner attention is directed toward using the vibration or mental negative of Jane Ellen Doe to find an Akashic picture of John and Jane together.

There may be many of these group Akashic pictures. Some of the pictures may match the negatives of Jane and John as they exist today, some may not. School of Metaphysics intuitive reports are designed to locate the picture or past association that most closely matches the current relationship. There may be pictures of John and Jane together in the Akashic Records but none of them match the negatives. This may be because the relationship is very distant or uninvolved.

Such was the case with Mary and her four-year-old daughter Aimee. Mary was divorced and she had agreed Aimee's father would have custody. Since Mary was following her own spiritual path, she knew it would be important for her to meet the spiritual needs of her daughter as well as her physical and emotional needs. The Conductor asked the Reporter to find a significant crossing for the two. After a brief pause, the Intuitive Reporter replied, "This is not seen."

No past relationship was found which significantly matched the current relationship. This may have been because of Aimee's young age, a transitional period in the development of the relationship, or the fact that the two souls had not previously incarned together. The Conductor knew from his own past experience the bearing and value this can have upon a current relationship. He knew information could be gained about the present association which would be timely, accurate, honest and objective. He asked, "Are there any suggestions for these two entities in the present time period?"

"We see that in the present period of time these two have desires which are very similar. We see there are many ways in which these ones are alike and that the past understood experiences are similar. It is important for these ones to realize it is their own separate individualities that are stimulating in their friendship. We see that these two do want approval from each other and in some ways try to be too much like each other. It is important for each one to maintain their own sense of individual identity....in order for both of them to recognize their own true value as individuals and also for them to understand just because something is appreciated there is not a need to change to be like what is appreciated. That is a decision which needs to be made separately, separate from the appreciation."

This portion of the reading points out how the relationship is developing and how Aimee as a child is developing. Mary is her role model and Aimee wants to grow up to be like her mother, her physical parent. This also conveys how Aimee is adopting and assuming her mother's attitudes of wanting to please and be accepted. With this knowledge, this issue can be faced and changed, particularly on the part of Mary, so each can evolve. This will change the course of their interaction in years to come rather than remain an issue they will confront time and again through the years.

Although it does not occur often, the lack of a significant past life association between two people does give them a great deal of freedom in how they create their present relationship. When no crossing has occurred, there are no karmic issues between the two people involved. This means they are free to create the kind of relationship they desire now. When this occurs, the assessment of the current relationship becomes even more important and meaningful for the two people involved.

Sometimes no significant crossing is seen, and this will occur because there are changes taking place individually or collectively in the present relationship. It has occurred several times when one person has been questioning the desire or need for the relationship to exist. Doubt and indecision will limit access to past life information because the "negative" is blurred and out of focus so no matching picture is found in the Akashic Record. When this occurs, the objective counsel given for the present time period can aid the individuals to move beyond the stagnation or confusion in their present association. Once these issues are resolved, past lifetime associations may become available for consideration.

Mary and Aimee's crossing offered significant insight into their relationship today which can aid them throughout their life as mother and daughter. Their reading illustrates the power and influence our thoughts have on our Selves and on the people in our world, how your thoughts and attitudes as a parent are reflected in your children from birth. The time from birth to seven years of age is extremely important for the physical and mental development of a child. When a baby is born, its conscious mind is like a blank chalkboard, clean and ready to be written upon. The conscious mind is that part of mind connecting with the physical organ called the brain. It is also the part of mind that reaches for experience.

During these first years our conscious perceptions, opinions, attitudes and prejudices are formulated based on our early experiences, relationships and the thoughts and attitudes of the important people in our lives. As children, we begin imitating our parents in action, in thought, attitude, and in Self image (see Intuitive Health Analysis section).

Mary had been studying and applying metaphysics in her daily life, so she knew the importance of causing her thoughts and attitudes to be productive and positive. She asked what attitudes she could develop that would benefit Aimee.

"Would suggest to the parent that by setting an example by following through with what is started is the most important. It is also important for the child to see the parent fulfilling her own desires. We see that by any part of this one's life, living it to its fullest and living its principles would be being an example to the child. We see that besides the discipline and the follow through, there are not any other specifics in terms of how this one should train the child."

As a single parent, I recognize thoughts I've had that I needed to give up some of my goals so I could be a better parent or so my daughter could have what she wanted. I think this is probably a universal way of thinking that we have to give up what we want, to sacrifice our desires in life to settle down and raise a family. This is an attitude of "this is what I want, but I know I can't have it".

Oftentimes this approach to life is accompanied by frustration, unhappiness, or "waiting until the kids leave home" to accomplish what you've felt like you've put off. In this instance, the Intuitive Reporter is telling Mary it is important for Aimee to recognize that goals are important and you can accomplish what you desire. The way for Aimee to experience that kind of success in her own life is for Mary to live that kind of success.

Mary is a nurse, working evenings. There is also the physical circumstance of living in a nearby but separate city. She was concerned about her physical absence from Aimee and sought guidance concerning this.

"We see that by establishing a way of study for the child, and also for the communication between the parent and the child as to the purpose of the parent's absence and also the communication of the love and concern towards the child, would establish the conditions that would need to be present." (126886CSR)

The study that the reading spoke of was for Mary to develop a form of mental discipline that Aimee could use. The benefit for Aimee, even at her early age, would be increased ability to concentrate, a greater sense of Self worth and a more clear image of herself as "Aimee" rather than "Mary's daughter".

Communication once again is an important factor in this association. Children often blame themselves because Mommy and Daddy are divorced. They think they have erred, been a bad girl or bad boy, and feel physically and emotionally torn between the parents. This is usually the result of parental attitudes, training, and experiences projected to the child. The child reacts to the expectations of the parent. This reading stresses how communication can overcome a child's misconceptions and the resulting poor Self image.

It is important that Mary communicate the physical, emotional, and mental love she has for Aimee, demonstrating that love and concern for her when they are together. By expressing her desire to fulfill personal goals, Mary will aid herself and Aimee. Aimee will begin to formulate ideas of Self worth, accomplishment, and determination that will last her many lifetimes because Mary has given her an example to live by.
 
 

Karma: Haven't We Done This Before?

Has there ever been someone in your life who you reacted strongly to, that you couldn't stand? That reaction is a response to something that the other person represents within yourself and it may seem magnified many times. The people we bring into our lives offer us a place to reflect on ourselves, who we are and what we want to accomplish. Our outer world and its relationships are a mirror of our inner world and our relationships with ourselves. There is no such thing as a karmic boo-boo or a cosmic error. That person you're reacting to has come into your life for some reason. The two of you are together, no matter how brief the time, for your mutual experiencing.

One of my first teachers of metaphysics related the story of how her relationship with her boyfriend began. After she first heard of the School of Metaphysics, she received a call from Dermot, one of the instructors at the school, about a new class starting. When they first met, Denise knew they weren't going to get along. She described Dermot as pushy, aggressive, and a know-it-all. Denise and Dermot were very much alike. The words she used to describe Dermot also described her; she was persistent about achieving her material goals and pursued them with conviction and passion.

Dermot was a good teacher, stimulating Denise to examine herself and her thoughts. Her response was to become angry and storm out of the school after class. After some time, they requested a Past Life Crossing discovering they had been together in Germany and that Dermot had been Denise's older brother. He had teased her unmercifully and she would become angry refusing to communicate.

In a later Past Life Crossing, these two were engaged to be wed through parental arrangement. When they met for the first time however they set a mutual goal to not marry the other. They built communication, cooperation, and trust as their friendship developed and they accomplished their goal! During the months and years that followed Denise and Dermot eventually became classmates and peers. Their disharmony with each other changed to an attraction and they eventually became romantically involved. As their physical relationship evolved, their Past Life Crossings reflected a parallel evolution.

The Past Life Crossing offers suggestions about how you and the other person in a relationship can use the learning from the past in your current association. The Intuitive Reporter and Conductor can provide an objective third-person view of your relationship so, if you listen to the information provided and apply it in your relationship, everyone concerned will benefit. If you apply the information today, the relationship will improve tomorrow.

The Intuitive Reporter and Conductor teams are trained to work together. They have studied the mind and its mechanics in great depth. They have applied mental law and mental techniques of discipline on a daily basis for years. Both the Intuitive Reporter and Conductor are insightful and also psychic. However, the information provided by way of the profiles will not relate the future of the association.

A young student and her boyfriend requested a Past Life Crossing. They were at a crossroads in their association and wanted to gain more information, and to determine if they should continue the relationship. After the significance of the reading was related, they asked what direction they should take with the relationship. The Intuitive Reporter suggested it was up to these two individuals to determine what they wanted to achieve individually and collectively.

When we are born, we are endowed with two gifts, our own individuality and free will. Free will is our ability to make choices and we make thousands of choices each day. We choose our thoughts and words we speak. We choose what dress to wear, whether to fix meat loaf or chicken for dinner, what route to drive to work. It may seem that some of the day-to-day decisions you make are minuscule in proportion to the decisions that relate to soul progression and growth. As thinking men and women, with the ability to analyze and reason, we can choose our learning situations and what we desire to learn. The decisions you make today will affect your tomorrow.

In any association, you can choose what your purpose or mutual learning is and choose the future for your relationship based on how you and the other person in the relationship can use the relationship productively.

When requesting a Past Life Crossing, it is a matter of courtesy and respect for the other party to ask their permission to obtain the reading. After obtaining a friend's permission for a reading, a woman was concerned because the friend did not believe in reincarnation. She thought perhaps her friend's denial would somehow affect the outcome of the reading. The Conductor assured her that the information presented would be unaffected and accurate. Just because someone doesn't know where the library is located, doesn't change the information stored in the books at the library.

A woman called to ask questions about the Past Life Crossings when I was directing the School of Metaphysics in Norman. She had heard about the profiles from a friend and wanted to get a crossing with her mother. During the process of the conversation I found that the woman's mother had passed away several years earlier. As we continued the conversation I informed her that a past life relationship could possibly be found, however there would be no relevance to her current relationship since her mother was deceased. Her curiosity would have been satisfied as to who they were in a past association, where they were and what they were doing, but there would be no useful information that she could apply in her life. In short, it might have made interesting conversation at a party, but provided no real service to the woman.

We recently received a very touching letter from a man in Caracus, Venezuela requesting more information about the Past Life Crossings. His wife had picked up a brochure about the profiles several years earlier when they lived in Boulder, Colorado where he was attending college. At the time, he didn't pursue his wife's interest or desire for a crossing. He wrote to say their relationship had changed. He and his wife were experiencing difficulties. "We seek your help. We are lost. Help us find our way."

Change in life, in any form, can be frightening and threatening. Oftentimes we'll do anything to maintain the status quo, but when the situation is forced we'll do something about it. We think nothing of changing the oil in a car every 3,000 miles or tuning the engine or rotating the tires so the car will continue to function. That's called proper maintenance. When it comes to other, much more significant parts of our lives, we'll bargain, ignore, and become angry to maintain a sense of balance with very little thought of "proper maintenance".

A Past Life Crossing is an excellent tool to aid the longevity of your relationship, like your car it is a vehicle requiring maintenance and diagnosis. Your relationships are vehicles for your soul growth and evolution as well as your partner's.

The Past Life Crossings are a service that is provided to the communities where Schools of Metaphysics are located and to cities where trained Intuitive Reporter-Conductor teams schedule visits. The information presented in the profiles is to help you and those others in your life to live happier, healthier, and more productive lives. We all want to know that we've made our mark on the world, left something of importance behind, touched a few lives and made a difference in the world. The information is presented to you openly, honestly, and objectively with the best wishes for its use, and your growth and soul evolution.

Paul Blosser has been teaching applied metaphysics since 1987. He has lectured to business and professional groups, church and single groups, about dreams, time management, goal setting, creating happiness and wealth, stress alleviation and job happiness. Paul owns a computer consulting firm and he lives (and his wife Pam) on the campus of the College of Metaphysics where he is a teaching assistant while pursuing his doctorate in Applied Metaphysics through the School of Metaphysics. 

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